Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009.
Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives. If you are a parent and are wondering what books are appropriate to begin initiating conversations around their sexuality, Dr. Martha Tara Lee offers resources by different age groups. In today's post we look ayt the early years - Ages 3 to 6
1. Itʼs MY Body – A book to teach young children how to resist uncomfortable touch, Lory Freeman and Carol Deach
Preschool children can learn safe boundaries, how to distinguish between “good” and “bad” touches, and how to respond appropriately to unwanted touches. This is a powerful book for enhancing self-esteem. Parenting Press’s bestseller!
2. Itʼs NOT the Stork! A book about girls, boys, babies, bodies, families and friends, Robie Harris and Michael Emberley
From the expert team behind IT’S PERFECTLY NORMAL and IT’S SO AMAZING! comes a book for younger children about their bodies — a resource that parents, teachers, librarians, health care providers, and clergy can use with ease and confidence.
Young children are curious about almost everything, especially their bodies. And young children are not afraid to ask questions. What makes me a girl? What makes me a boy? Why are some parts of girls’ and boys’ bodies the same and why are some parts different? How was I made? Where do babies come from? Is it true that a stork brings babies to mommies and daddies?
2. What’s the Big Secret? Laurie Krasny Brown, Ed.D. and Marc Brown
American Bookseller Pick of the Lists, 1997 Are boys and girls different on the inside? How do you tell girls and boys apart? Do girls and boys have the same feelings? Is sex a dirty word? Where do babies come from? What does being pregnant mean? How do you get a belly button? Tell me about when I was a baby…
3. Amazing You!: Getting Smart About Your Private Parts ,Gail Saltz
“Mom, where do babies come from?” Many parents live in fear of the day their child asks this question?which inevitably happens, often as early as the preschool years. Here is a picture book designed especially for young children who are becoming aware of their bodies, but aren’t ready to learn about sexual intercourse. Written with warmth and honesty, Amazing You! presents clear and age-appropriate information about reproduction, birth, and the difference between girls’ and boys’ bodies. Lynne Cravath’s lighthearted illustrations enliven the text, making this a book that parents will gladly share with their young ones.
4. How Was I Born, Lennart Nilsson
Ever since the publication of the magnificent third edition of A Child Is Born, Lennart Nilsson has devoted himself to retelling this magical story especially for children. How Was I Born? closely follows the experience of Mary who is nearly five and her family as they lovingly prepare to welcome a new baby.
5. Look Inside Your Body, Gina Ingoglia
Geared toward young children curious about the way things work.
6. Your Body Belongs To You, Cornlia Spelman
In simple, reassuring language, the author explains that a child’s body is his or her own; that it is all right for kids to decline a friendly hug or kiss, even from someone they love; and that you can still be friends even if you don’t want a hug now.
7. A Touching Book:…For Little People and For Big People Jan Hindman
A positive approach to sexual abuse prevention is the solution to the dilemma. We cannot begin to prevent or detect sexual abuse without first opening positive communication with children about sexual issues. This book establishes a warm and positive foundation for sexuality before the issues of detection and prevention are addressed. Whether in a home, school, police station, social agency, church or treatment centre, adults who read this book to a child, will teach positive ideas about sexuality, and they will begin the communication process.
8. A Kid’s First Book About Sex, Joani Blank
An introduction to sexuality for young readers, discussing feelings, bodies, and developing a positive self-image.
9. The Bare Naked Book, Kathy Stinson
Twenty years old and still going strong, The Bare Naked Book remains a favorite family introduction to the human body. There is nothing more ordinary and more special than the human body. After all, everybody has one, and for all the parts that are the same each comes in a different shape and size.
10. Human Body: Hidden World,Claude Delafosse and Gallimard Jeunesse
In Hidden World Human Body, young children will learn fascinating facts about the hidden world inside the human body and how it works!
11. “Where Did I Come From”: The Facts of Life Without Any Nonsense and With Illustrations, Peter Mayle
Describes the reproductive process from intercourse to birth.
12. Bellybuttons Are Navels, Mark Schoen
“Bellybuttons Are Navels” is designed for use with young children. Cheerful artwork and gentle words frame this engagingly told story of two children taking a bath. As Mary and her brother Robert splash about and play, they not only discover that boys and girls have some of the same body parts, but also that boys and girls have some distinguishing features- that have accurate names.
13. What Makes a Baby by Cory Silverberg
Geared to readers from preschool to age eight, What Makes a Baby is a book for every kind of family and every kind of kid. It is a twenty-first century children’s picture book about conception, gestation, and birth, which reflects the reality of our modern time by being inclusive of all kinds of kids, adults, and families, regardless of how many people were involved, their orientation, gender and other identity, or family composition. Just as important, the story doesn’t gender people or body parts, so most parents and families will find that it leaves room for them to educate their child without having to erase their own experience.
14. Mommy Laid An Egg: Or, Where Do Babies Come From? by Babette Cole
In this hilarious twist on one of the most difficult discussions in a child’s development, award winning author Babette Cole illustrates the one question all children are bound to ask: Where do babies come from? Mom explains that you can make babies out of gingerbread, grow them from seeds, or squeeze them out of tubes, while Dad says you can find babies under rocks.
Young children are curious about almost everything. Asking questions is one of many ways they learn about themselves and the world around them. Now, this unique series for our youngest children provides easy-to-understand facts and answers to their delightful, thoughtful, and often nonstop questions.
16. Ready, Set, Grow!: A What’s Happening to My Body? Book for Younger Girls by Lynda Madaras and Linda Davick
Ready, Set, Grow!
In her uniquely warm and funny style, Lynda wrote this entirely new book especially for younger girls to give them what they need to know to celebrate and accept the new and exciting changes that are happening to their bodies during puberty.